This is every questions and games list on the Pookie blog in one place: 400+ questions for couples across 9 guides, from Would You Rather and Never Have I Ever to the deep ones that end with someone crying a bit. Pick a list, or start with the twenty questions below.
Every couple runs out of things to talk about. Not because there is nothing left, but because "how was your day" is a habit and habits are loud. A good question is a crowbar. It gets under the routine and lifts it. These guides are full of them, sorted by how much you want to feel afterwards.
Each guide below is a full post. This page is the map.
Question games
For when you want to laugh first and get honest by accident. All three work in person, over text, or on a call, and all three go from cute to spicy if you let them.
75 Would You Rather Questions for Couples (Fun to Spicy)
From funny and lighthearted to deep and relationship-revealing, these would you rather questions are perfect for date night or any time.
Read more Couple Games75 Never Have I Ever Questions for Couples (Cute to Spicy)
Ten fingers each, no audience, every finger down comes with a story. Sorted by mood.
Read more Couple Games75 Truth or Dare Questions for Couples (Cute to Spicy)
75 truth or dare questions for couples, from cute and funny to deep and a little spicy. The perfect date night game, road trip filler, or text thread saver.
Read moreDeep questions and conversation starters
For the long drive, the late dinner, the night you both put the phones down. These are the ones that go somewhere.
50 Deep Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
50 deep, meaningful questions to ask your girlfriend for real conversations that actually go somewhere.
Read more Couple Questions50 Deep Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend
50 deep, meaningful questions to ask your boyfriend for conversations that actually go somewhere.
Read more Relationship Tips50 Conversation Starters for Couples (From Fun to Deep)
Run out of things to talk about? These conversation starters will spark real connection.
Read more Relationship Tips60 Date Night Questions for Couples
From fun and flirty to deep and meaningful, these questions will spark real conversations.
Read moreGames you can play on your phone
When you want to play rather than talk, or you are not in the same place. Apps built for two, general games that work for couples, and games that only need a text thread.
Games to Play With Your Girlfriend on Your Phone
Apps built for two, general games that work for couples, and games that need nothing but a text thread.
Read more Couple GamesGames to Play With Your Boyfriend on Your Phone
Same couch or long distance. Real-time apps, text games, and ways to turn a boring evening into a rematch.
Read moreTwenty questions to start with tonight
One from each mood, pulled from across the guides. Take turns. No skipping.
- What is something you have changed your mind about since we met?
- Which small thing I do makes you feel most looked after?
- What did you think the first time you saw me? Honest version.
- What is a habit of mine you have secretly grown to like?
- If we had a free weekend and no budget limit, where are we going?
- What is one thing you would like us to do more of?
- Which of your friends do you think gets us the most?
- What were you like at twelve?
- What is a compliment you have never forgotten?
- Would you rather relive our first date or fast forward to our tenth anniversary?
- What is something you are proud of that nobody has asked you about?
- Who is more likely to cry at an advert? Defend your answer.
- What is a song that sounds like us?
- When did you last feel really rested?
- What is one thing you want me to understand about your family?
- Never have I ever pretended to like a gift from you.
- What is a fear you have that sounds silly out loud?
- What would you do with a completely free Sunday, no obligations, no me?
- What is the best thing about how we argue?
- What do you hope we are doing five years from tonight?
How to ask questions without it feeling like an interview
Answer first. If you ask "what are you afraid of" and then sit there waiting, it is an interview. If you say "I realised I am scared of being boring, what about you", it is a conversation. Ask one at a time. Follow up on the answer instead of moving to the next card. And stop before the good mood runs out, not after.
If you want the questions delivered to you instead of hunting for them, Pookie has 10,000+ across Would You Rather, Who's More Likely and Draw It Out, plus daily and monthly check-ins you each answer on your own before comparing. New quizzes land every week, and the spicy ones are behind a toggle so you choose. How that compares to the other couples apps.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are good questions to ask your partner?
Start with questions that have a story in the answer: what did you think the first time you saw me, which small thing I do makes you feel looked after, what have you changed your mind about since we met. Avoid yes or no questions. The conversation starters guide has 50 sorted from light to deep.
What are fun questions for couples?
Would You Rather, Never Have I Ever and Who's More Likely are the three that reliably get a laugh. Would you rather relive our first date or skip to our tenth anniversary. Who is more likely to cry at an advert. Never have I ever pretended to like a gift. The Would You Rather guide has 75 sorted from funny to spicy.
What are deep questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend?
What were you like at twelve, what is a fear that sounds silly out loud, what do you want me to understand about your family, what do you hope we are doing five years from now. Deep questions work best when you answer first. There are 50 each in the girlfriend and boyfriend guides.
Is there an app with questions for couples?
Yes. Pookie has 10,000+ questions and quizzes for couples across Would You Rather, Who's More Likely, Draw It Out and topic packs from icebreakers to spicy, with new quizzes every week. You each answer on your own phone before seeing what the other said. Paired, Lovewick and Agapé are question-first apps too, mostly around one question a day.
How do you play 21 questions with your partner?
Take turns asking one question each until you reach 21. The only rule is honest answers, and most couples add a skip that costs a forfeit. It works over text, on a call, or in person. Pull the questions from the lists on this page so you are not thinking them up on the spot.
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